Dating again after 50

I recently met a man (64) and a widower of just one year. One question: Even men who like you asking them out don't want a woman to do all the asking. Chat with a guy who isn't your "type" and stretch your boundaries. I have met five men and all they want to do is stay home. Dave Singleton works for AARP Publications and has written two books and numerous columns on dating and relationships. Any tips for writing a good profile to attract the right guys? But some men are still traditional and they don't. Sometimes it takes years before people realize, or change their opinion, about what compromises they are willing to make. There's more focus on getting into a committed relationship than there is on making sure it's the right one. Your date will wonder, "If he's not honest about his age, what other lies is he telling?" 4. When you know yourself better, you can quickly size up what you want in someone else. So you have to ask yourself if you are willing to miss a few people and maybe that's a good thing, if you are a person who doesn't like tradition. Pick your meet 'n' greet venues wisely. Don't post the online profile of Dorian Gray by showing off your shiny youth. Find out if the event you like is really the one she likes. There has to be somebody there who wants to get off their butt. Now it might be comforting to find a partner who can relate to your experiences and your outlook, and has the same pop culture references you do. The ones I have tried seem to attract men who want up front and act like they are back in college. If you want a real relationship, then be real. Keep an open mind and try to expand your horizons. PS : It's a good idea if she likes sporting events. Yes, it's true that the Olympic-sized pool of dating prospects you swam in years ago seems like a lap lane when you reach your 50s. And if she does, it could be a great first date. Then create a profile that reflects who are you, what you want and includes recent photos. PS : What's wrong with the men in your town? It's another to leave out an entire decade! Don't push it, and see what each of you can find in each other's lifestyle that's fun. And so what if he doesn't immediately strike you as hot and y? Question from Janet: I come from a small town where most everybody is married or has younger kids that grew up with my kids. Com that can help you find long-term relationships versus flings or hookups. We are never objective about ourselves, so we need people to help us. I like to go to the movies, out to eat, ride around listening to good music. Question from Bonnie : I am a widow, 64 years old. PS: If the guy is really secure, he will like it. Once you've asked him out, wait for him to ask the next time. Also, have a friend nearby when you are writing and see if they think you are doing yourself justice, or if you are writing up something that is a real. Question from Liz: How do you find a good online dating site? Give it at least another six months. When it comes to truth in advertising, it's one thing to shave a couple of years off. Ask her and make sure she's not just trying to be nice. PS : Go to Google, Yahoo or Bing and type in "online dating." You will get a long list of candidates. Or you're miserable because there's no prospect on the horizon. Go to the sites and see what they use as a way to present yourself to others, what the site looks like does it look like it's intended for your. So the best bet is to cast a wider net.